In the grand theater of our minds, there's often an unwelcome guest: the inner critic, or as we also call it, the heckler.
This pesky presence perches on our shoulders, whispering doubts and casting shadows over our sense of self. It's here, at the level of identity, where limiting beliefs take root and spread their vines, hindering our growth and stifling our potential. According to Robert Dilts' neurological levels model, these beliefs sit at the core of our being, shaping our perceptions, decisions, and actions. They're the lenses through which we view ourselves and the world around us, coloring every aspect of our lives.
Now, let's shine a spotlight on some common scripts the inner critic loves to recite. You might overhear the people on your team uttering phrases like,
"This is who I am, I can't do that", or
"I always play it safe, I don't take risks" or
"I'm a complete control freak, I can't delegate," or
"I'm so disorganized," or even,
"I'm not someone who would inspire people."
These declarations aren't just innocuous words; they're powerful affirmations that anchor us to a limited version of ourselves.
But why does it matter?
Well, these beliefs act as invisible barriers, confining us within self-imposed boundaries and constraining our potential.
Imagine believing, "I am not creative." Such a belief becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, influencing the choices we make, the skills we pursue, and the opportunities we seize. In the realm of leadership, this could manifest as a leader shying away from innovative strategies or failing to empower their team members to think outside the box.
So, how do we dismantle these mental fortresses?
It's not about bulldozing through them but rather gently inviting others to re-examine their foundations.
We start by getting curious about the heckler on their shoulder.
What does it want for them?
What need is it trying to fulfill?
By shifting the focus to the positive intent behind the negative beliefs, we open the door to transformation.
Imagine there's a creative part of you capable of providing the same benefits without the self-sabotage. What would that look like?
By envisioning a future where these parts coexist harmoniously, we pave the way for profound shifts in self-perception.
But we don't stop there. We also explore the possibility of multiple identities, acknowledging that we contain multitudes.
"Yes, you may play it safe, but you're also courageous."
" You may seek control, but you're also capable of letting go."
By embracing the complexity of our selves, we liberate ourselves from the confines of singular narratives.
In essence, addressing limiting beliefs at the level of identity is an act of liberation. It's about reclaiming agency over our stories, rewriting the scripts that no longer serve us, and embracing the full spectrum of who we are.